Managing our dysfunctional behaviors
and many others, have long be concerned that CoDA has no bottom line like other
programs. Like stopping drinking or
I have a proposal that I would like to see
incorporated into Coda’s name.
It is “CoDependence Anonymous / Managing our
It says what for me is the goal of my
recovery, i.e. I have learned over the years how to manage/deal with my behavior
so I can live a normal life. Not
that I don’t get triggered from time to time and some times still listen to my
old tapes. My goal is to be able to
manage these attacks.
As Codependence means something different to
everyone, the one thing we have in common is the desire to be able to
manage/control this codependency so that it does not interfere with my life and
who I am.
Adding these four words to our name would also
make Codependence more easily understood by those who are not in the program and
may make the program more attractive. I believe that our declining membership is partially due to
not having a clear message of the benefits and what one can expect from
participating in meetings.
Some people would like to have softer words,
or words directed at their own form of codependence. I believe our title/name needs to be broad and unambiguous.
Please let me know what you think.