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The Fellowship Service Manual of Co-Dependents Anonymous Conference approved August 2005

The Fellowship Service Manual
of Co-Dependents Anonymous

   

 

Copyright (c) 1998
Co-Dependents Anonymous, Inc.

CoDa Fellowship Service Manual
Last Revision: August, 2005
The Fellowship Service Manual of Co-Dependents Anonymous Conference approved August 2005

 

The Fellowship Service Manual of Co-Dependents Anonymous


Section 01 Introduction
Purpose of this Manual
The Twelve Steps of Co-Dependents Anonymous©
The Twelve Traditions of Co-Dependents Anonymous©
The Twelve Service Concepts of Co-Dependents Anonymous

Section 02 The Group Conscience Process
Representation
Chart: Structure of CoDA
The Process of Determining a Group Conscience
Safety, Boundaries, and Respect in the Group Conscience Process
Disagreement, Mediation, and Resolution in Our Group Conscience Process
Empowerment to Serve

Section 03 The CoDA Group
CoDA Meetings
Some Different Types of CoDA Meetings
"Open" and "Closed" meetings
Crosstalk
Starting A New Meeting ©

Section 04 Attracting Members
Community Outreach Package Introduction
Press Release
Welcoming Newcomers
Flyer for Bulletin Boards

Section 05 Commonly Asked Questions
What constitutes a CoDA Group?
How does our Group register with CoDA, Inc.?
What is a "Home Group," and why might I want one?
How can I let people know about our meeting?
Where do we get funds?
What is a "prudent reserve," and what do we do with excess moneys collected?
Is there a limit to the amount an individual may donate to CoDA?
Can our group use the CoDA, Inc. Tax ID Number?
Does CoDA Inc. have an "umbrella" insurance policy that would cover our meeting?
What should we do if the group disbands?

Section 06 The Trusted Servants of CoDA
General Responsibilities of Trusted Servants
Guidelines for CoDA Group service positions

Section 07 The Community Service Structure
The Community Service Group or "Inter-Group"
Service Participation at the Community Service Group
Community Service Member
The Community Service Representative (CSR)
Alternate Community Service Representative

Section 08 Voting Entity Service
Voting Entity Service Structure
Voting Entity Structure Guidelines
Voting Entity Committees
Voting Entity Delegates
Alternate Delegates
Delegate Expenses
Voting Entity Delegate Term of Service

Section 09 CoDA, Inc. Service Structure
CoDA Service Structure
The CoDA Service Conference
Service Responsibility
CoDA Service Boards and Trustees
CoDA, Inc. Board Of Trustees Position Description
Application for Board of Trustees of Co-Dependents Anonymous, Inc.
CoDA Service Committees
List of the Board-Overseen Service Functions and Standing CoDA Committees
Committee Accountability
Incorporated CoDA Service Entities

Section 10 CoDA Committees and Board-Overseen Service Functions: Descriptions and Roles
Board Overseen Service Functions
CoDA Website
Fellowship Services
CoDA Committees
CoDA Conference Committee
Convention Committee
Finance Committee
Issues Mediation Committee
CoDA Teen Committee
Hospitals and Institutions Committee
CoDA Literature Committee
Outreach Committee
Service Structure Committee
Translation Management Committee

Section 11 CoDA Corporate Entities
Co-Dependents Anonymous, Inc.
CoDA Resource Publishing, Inc. (CoRe)

Section 12 Guidelines for CoDA Communications
Communications Within All of CoDA
List of Affirmative Communication Actions
Communications From the Board: CoDA Quarterly Service Report (QSR) Guidelines
Guidelines For Developing An Area CoDA Website

Section 13 Conference Procedures
Guidelines for Business Meetings
Procedures
Conference Procedures (Revised 7/2000)
Conference Procedures Adopted In 1994
Guidelines for The Community Interactive Method
Community Problem Solving Method Of Decision Making: Sequence For Bringing A Motion To Vote
Brainstorming and Formulating Recommendations
Speaking At Microphones
History of The Community Problem Solving or Interactive Decision Making Method
Guidelines for Hosting a CoDA Service Conference
Guidelines for Hosting a CoDA Convention

Section 14 Meeting Resource Documents
Preamble
Welcome
Patterns of Codependence©
The Twelve Promises of Co-Dependents Anonymous
Basic Meeting Format
The Use of Prayers in CoDA

Section 15 Forms
Group Registration Form
Contribution Form
Combination Meeting Changes/7th Tradition Contribution Form
About the Meeting's Phone List
Meeting Funds Record
Literature Order Form (instructions on how to order from CoRe.)

Section 16 CoDA Literature Committee (CLC) Style Sheet

Section 17 Use of CoDA Seals and Symbols

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CoDa Fellowship Service Manual
Last Revision: August, 2005
The Fellowship Service Manual of Co-Dependents Anonymous Conference approved August 2005

Section 01 Introduction

 

Purpose of this Manual


The purpose of this document is to provide a comprehensive description of our service structure and to furnish spiritual guidelines for applying the Twelve Traditions to our service work. It also provides an overview and examples of the group conscience process.

Vision of the Fellowship

Tradition Five: Each group has but one primary purpose: to carry its message to other codependents who still suffer.

CoDA is a Twelve Step program. The basis of our program is the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions of Co-Dependents, Anonymous, Inc. What all CoDA members share in common are these Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions. As a whole, CoDA has no opinion on outside books, treatment programs, or therapies related to codependency. Some individuals have found other things that assist in recovery, and each person is free to explore as they chose. However, as a Fellowship, working the Twelve Steps has worked for us, and this is what we do in CoDA. Our common experience is that the Steps and Traditions have restored us to sanity and healthy relationships. The vision of our Fellowship is to develop and make available the recovery resources known as Co-Dependents Anonymous. Through this effort, we provide support to the individual seeking help, and continue to improve the quality of the recovery resources we offer.

CoDA's Twelfth Step reads: "Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to other codependents and to practice these principles in all our affairs".

As we begin to see the positive results of our participation in CoDA, we feel a sense of serenity and gratitude for the gifts we have received through our program. Our own recovery and growth become examples of what our program has to offer. Through our outreach to the codependent who still suffers, we give back to our program. CoDA was there when we needed it, and, through our service, it will continue. Our willingness to "carry the message" of experience, strength, and hope helps the program of Co-Dependents Anonymous to continue on and to grow in its ability to improve our lives and the lives of those around us. Let us gratefully demonstrate what CoDA has to offer…through our service.


The Twelve Steps of Co-Dependents Anonymous©*

  1. We admitted we were powerless over others, that our lives had become unmanageable.
  2. Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
  3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God, as we understood God.
  4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
  5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
  6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
  7. Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings.
  8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.
  9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible except when to do so would injure them or others.
  10. Continued to take personal inventory and, when we were wrong, promptly admitted it.
  11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, as we understood God, praying only for knowledge of God's will for us and the power to carry that out.
  12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to other codependents and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

"The Twelve Steps are reprinted and adapted with permission of Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc. Permission to reprint and adapt this material does not mean that AA has reviewed or approved the content of this publication, nor that AA agrees with the views expressed herein. AA is a program of recovery from alcoholism only - use of the Twelve Steps in connection with programs and activities which are patterned after AA, but which address other problems, does not imply otherwise."

The 12 Steps of AA:

  1. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol - that our lives had become unmanageable.
  2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
  3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God, as we understood Him.
  4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
  5. Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
  6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
  7. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
  8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
  9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
  10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
  11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
  12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

The Twelve Traditions of Co-Dependents Anonymous©*

  1. Our common welfare should come first; personal recovery depends upon CoDA unity.
  2. For our group purpose there is but one ultimate authority: a loving Higher Power as expressed to our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants; they do not govern.
  3. The only requirement for membership in CoDA is a desire for healthy and loving relationships.
  4. Each group should remain autonomous except in matters affecting other groups or CoDA as a whole.
  5. Each group has but one primary purpose: to carry its message to other codependents who still suffer.
  6. A CoDA group ought never endorse, finance, or lend the CoDA name to any related facility or outside enterprise, lest problems of money, property, and prestige divert us from our primary spiritual aim.
  7. Every CoDA group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions.
  8. Co-Dependents Anonymous should remain forever nonprofessional, but our service centers may employ special workers.
  9. CoDA, as such, ought never be organized; but we may create service boards or committees directly responsible to those they serve.
  10. CoDA has no opinion on outside issues; hence, the CoDA name ought never be drawn into public controversy.
  11. Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, and films.
  12. Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our traditions, ever reminding us to place principles before personalities.

*The Twelve Traditions are reprinted and adapted with permission of Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc. Permission to reprint and adapt this material does not mean that AA has reviewed or approved the content of this publication, nor that AA agrees with the views expressed herein. AA is a program of recovery from alcoholism only - use of the Twelve Traditions in connection with programs and activities which are patterned after AA, but which address other problems, does not imply otherwise.

The 12 Traditions of AA

  1. Our common welfare should come first; personal recovery depends upon A.A. unity.
  2. For our group purpose, there is but one ultimate authority--a loving God as he may express Himself in our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants; they do not govern.
  3. The only requirement for A.A. membership is a desire to stop drinking.
  4. Each group should be autonomous except in matters affecting other groups of A.A. as a whole.
  5. Each group has but one primary purpose--to carry its message to the alcoholic who still suffers.
  6. An A.A. group ought never endorse, finance, or lend the A.A. name to any related facility or outside enterprise, lest problems of money, property, and prestige divert us from our primary purpose.
  7. Every A.A. group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions.
  8. Alcoholics Anonymous should remain forever nonprofessional, but our service centers may employ special workers.
  9. AA, as such, ought never be organized; but we may create service boards or committees directly responsible to those they serve.
  10. Alcoholics Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence, the A.A. name ought never be drawn into public controversy.
  11. Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, and films.
  12. Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our traditions, ever reminding us to place principles before personalities.

Twelve Service Concepts of Co-Dependents Anonymous

  1. The members of the Fellowship of Co-Dependents Anonymous, in carrying out the will of a loving Higher Power, advance their individual recoveries, work to insure the continuance of their groups and their program, and carry the message to codependents who still suffer. They may also collectively authorize and establish service boards or committees and empower trusted servants to perform service work.
  2. The Fellowship of CoDA has the responsibility of determining, through its group conscience, the service work to be performed, and the best manner to perform such work. This authority is expressed through our group conscience. Authority carries responsibility; thus, CoDA groups conscientiously provide adequate funding and support for the service work they authorize.
  3. Decisions about service work in the Fellowship and all CoDA affairs are made through the group conscience decision making process. For this spiritual democratic process to work, every member of the group is encouraged to participate, consider all the facts and options concerning the issue, listen respectfully to all opinions expressed, then reflect and meditate to find a loving Higher Power's will. Finally, we deliberate honestly and respectfully to determine the proper course of action. Unanimity in the group is the desired outcome; a majority vote is a group conscience.
  4. All those who volunteer to do service work for CoDA by serving on committees, boards, or corporations are trusted servants, not authority figures. Ideally, trusted servants volunteer out of a desire to follow their Higher Power's will, out of gratitude for the gifts they have received from CoDA, out of a desire to grow in their ability to create and keep healthy relationships, and to contribute what they can of themselves to CoDA. The Fellowship recognizes the need to select the most qualified people willing to serve as trusted servants. At times, trusted servants may hire individuals outside of the Fellowship for commercial services.
  5. Trusted servants are directly responsible to those they serve and are bound to honor the group conscience decision making process and uphold those decisions concerning their service work. The Fellowship also recognizes the need and right for members to honor their own experience, strength, and hope and their Higher Power's will as expressed to them. When the group conscience violates an individual's own truth and makes participation impossible, the individual may relinquish the service position.
  6. The Fellowship guarantees trusted servants the right and authority to freely make decisions commensurate with their responsibilities and the right to participate in group conscience decisions affecting their responsibilities. Each CoDA member is also guaranteed the right to respectfully dissent during the group conscience decision making process. A member may freely and safely express any personal grievances as long as no particular person or group is unexpectedly singled out as the subject of the grievance. Members are encouraged to honor their own integrity as well as the integrity of others.
  7. Trusted servants do practice the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions in their service work and in all of their affairs. Trusted servants do not seek power, prestige, wealth, status, or acclaim; do not govern, coerce, or attempt to control others; and do not push a personal agenda, promote controversy, or advance outside issues at CoDA's expense. Since issues over authority, will, money, property, and prestige can and do arise in service work, trusted servants need to practice emotional sobriety, including anonymity, humility, tolerance, gratitude, making amends, and forgiveness.
  8. The CoDA Service Conference (Conference), through its group conscience decision making process, guides the Fellowship in making policy decisions and in following the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions. The Conference, though providing guidelines, holds no authority over the decision making process of individual groups. The group conscience process is our decision making process. Failure to honor this process may violate Traditions One and Four and a sanction may be imposed. The harshest sanction Conference can impose on an individual or group is to no longer recognize it as belonging to CoDA; this sanction may only be imposed on those who consistently violate the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, as determined by guidelines accepted by Conference.
  9. By tradition, the CoDA Service Conference gives responsibilities to working committees composed of Conference Delegates and other CoDA volunteers or to separate service boards or corporations. All are directly responsible to the Conference. The scope of the work a committee does is determined by the Conference group conscience. The chairperson of each committee assumes the responsibility to ensure the work assigned to the committee is completed in a timely manner.
  10. When the CoDA Service Conference is in session, the CoDA Board of Trustees is directly responsible to the Conference. When not in session, the Conference assigns its decision-making authority on material matters to the Trustees. The Board of Trustees is authorized to monitor the work of Conference-appointed service committees and may provide assistance or guidelines when necessary. The Trustees serve as the board of directors of CoDA, Inc., the non-profit corporation, are assigned custodial control of all money and property held in trust for the Fellowship, and are responsible for prudent management of its finances.
  11. The powers of the CoDA Service Conference derive from the pre-eminent authority of the group conscience decision-making process. Arizona State law gives the Board of Trustees legal rights and responsibilities to act for the Fellowship in certain situations. CoDA, Inc.'s Articles of Incorporation and Bylaws are legal documents enumerating these Board rights and responsibilities.
  12. The Fellowship strives to practice and encourage spiritual principles in all its material, financial, and business affairs, including fairness, equality, and respect for individual rights. Every member within CoDA has a voice and is encouraged to use it. Every member has the right to know what is happening within our organization. To honor this right, and in the spirit of CoDA unity, our CoDA, Inc. organization publishes and distributes group conscience decisions, such as minutes of our service boards and motions from our CoDA Service Conferences, in the most inclusive and timely manner possible.

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Section 02 The Group Conscience Process

 

Representation
The spiritual structure of CoDA is based on Tradition Two: "For our group purpose there is but one ultimate authority: a loving Higher Power as expressed to our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants; they do not govern." By polling our group conscience, we seek guidance from our Higher Power and make decisions affecting our groups, our service boards, and our committees.

We call this "group conscience decision making.” This is sometimes new to people entering the program, and some have difficulty understanding and adapting to this process because of its "non-governing" style. It can be a lengthy process requiring patience.

Many of us are more familiar with "hierarchies.” Imagine a hierarchy as a pyramid. The people at the top of the pyramid have power, and it flows down from them through various levels. By the time power reaches those at the bottom of the pyramid, it is so diluted that the people at the bottom have little power at all. CoDA is about self-empowerment, so a hierarchical system cannot adhere to our Steps, Traditions, and spiritual principles.

CoDA structure is an inverted pyramid. The broad pyramid top represents the members of CoDA, and authority, power, and direction resides with them. Members of groups may exercise power through the group conscience. Authority and power flow down to and thru a groups trusted servants and area Intergroup (or community service groups), then on to the Voting Entity’s (VE) Intergroup and the VE's delegates and eventually to the bottom of the pyramid. At the bottom, we find our CoDA, Inc. boards, committees and service corporations.

The group conscience process is used to make decisions at all levels of CoDA. The home group typically has a monthly business meeting to discuss issues affecting the group such as how to address crosstalk, what literature to buy, how to welcome newcomers, etc. A group conscience may also be asked for during a regular meeting, if a decision is needed right away and can’t wait for the regular business meeting. Anyone may ask for a group conscience at anytime during a CoDA meeting, if and when immediate attention is needed to ensure the safety of an individual or the group, or to uphold the CoDA Traditions.

The group conscience process is also used to make decisions that affect CoDA as a whole and to elect trusted servants to carry out those decisions. The process of electing trusted servants begins with the group meeting. Each home group meeting may select a group service representative (GSR) to represent that group at Intergroup. The Intergroup (community, area, country, state, regional) elects delegates to represent them at CoDA, Inc. meetings. The GSR carries the group conscience of the home group meeting to Intergroup. Intergroup holds a group conscience and decides whether the item will proceed to CoDA, Inc., or the next level.

At the Country, State and Regional or other Voting Entity levels, group and community representatives select trusted servants to serve the members of that Voting Entity. Group representatives also select Delegates to represent them and carry their group conscience to the CoDA Service Conference, which is held annually. Each Voting Entity may send two Delegates to this Conference, which is the annual business meeting of CoDA. At the CoDA Service Conference, Delegates carry the group conscience of those they represent. Delegates also work together to make decisions dealing with CoDA Inc., and select trusted servants who will serve our Fellowship.

Chart: Structure of CoDA

Each meeting is encouraged to select a Group Service Representative (GSR) to carry their group conscience to the Intergroup and/or the Voting Entity. VEs provide services to Meetings and/or Intergroups.  Meeting and/or Intergroup Service Representatives (GSRs) attend the VE meeting to attend to the material affairs of the VE and elect/select Delegates and Alternate Delegates. Integroups provide services to the local meetings.  These services may include meeting lists, news letters, speaker’s lists, sponsoring workshops or recovery events.  Intergroups may send one or more Group Service Representatives to the Voting Entity as determined by the group conscience of the fellowship Integroups provide services to the local meetings.  These services may include meeting lists, news letters, speaker’s lists, sponsoring workshops or recovery events.  Intergroups may send one or more Group Service Representatives to the Voting Entity as determined by the group conscience of the fellowship VE Delegates carry the will of their Fellowship to CoDA’s annual business meeting (CoDA Service Conference [CSC]).  They review and approve Committee reports and planned activities, review and approve the CoDA Budget, discuss and set policy, and elect the Board of Trustees for CoDA and CoRe.  Delegates also provide CoDA program guidance to the Trusted Servants doing 12th Step service on CoDA Committees National service committees are made up of members who donate their time and talents to focused efforts in support of CoDA Inc.'s goals and priorities national service committees are made up of members who donate their time and talent to focused efforts in support of CoDA Inc's goals and priorities Trustees are trusted servants who make up the Board of Directors of CoDA Inc. a corporation developed by the fellowship to handle our legal  and business needs CoRe publications Inc. handles the printing and distribution of CoDA approved literature for the fellowship


The Process of Determining a Group Conscience

Decisions at all levels of CoDA are made with the guidance of our Higher Power as expressed through the Twelve Traditions. Particularly useful are Tradition One: "Our common welfare should come first. Personal recovery depends upon CoDA Unity." and Tradition Two: "For our group purpose there is but one authority—a loving Higher Power as expressed to our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants; they do not govern.” Thus as with all our recovery, group conscience is about putting aside the "self" and looking to Higher Power for guidance

To begin the group conscience process, members present raise issues or items of business. Our goal is to reach agreement on the items presented. The meeting is opened to discussion by the chair/facilitator. When discussion ends, we determine the group conscience by taking a vote. A majority determines the group conscience.

Using a group conscience process is similar to "consensus-based decision making.” The primary difference is that in CoDA, people who participate share their strength, hope, and experience with one another in an effort to determine what is best for everyone in the Fellowship as a whole. We consciously invite our Higher Power to guide and direct us, individually and collectively. We grow in our recovery by putting aside the need to be right while making a decision for the good of CoDA in a spiritual process.

We seek to avoid campaigning in order to gain a win for "our" solution. A group conscience decision grows out of the combined wisdom invested in the whole group. With the help of our Higher Power, we open our minds to all view points presented and then vote for the one we see as best for CoDA. We work to keep “personalities and prestige” from becoming involved. For instance, the voice and wisdom of someone with six months of experience is of as much weight and value as that of someone with ten years of recovery. Finally, be warned that an individual's need for acceptance and approval may circumvent the spiritual process. It isn't Higher Power's will that we go along to get along.

In CoDA, everyone is encouraged to share experience, strength, and hope with each other. We may engage in assertive presentation of our point of view, but we draw a boundary against aggressive persuasion, name-calling, or arm-twisting of people to vote a certain way. If a position is that of our Higher Power, it will naturally attract others.

Sometimes a person may invoke the "Right of Dissenting Opinion." This means that even a minority of one, favoring or opposing an issue, has a right to be heard. Only individual(s) who actively participated in the decision making without circumventing the process can offer a dissenting opinion. At a meeting, it means a person has the right to express a dissenting opinion before the members vote. In the CoDA Fellowship, it means that a member, group of members, or a committee may request the distribution of a dissenting opinion in writing in order to be "heard" by the Fellowship.

In conclusion, while every person has the right to express opinions, the group conscience determines a particular course of action. We demonstrate our openness to the will of Higher Power by accepting that decision even when we may disagree with it.

Safety, Boundaries, and Respect in the Group Conscience Process
During the group conscience process, it is important that we all practice our program by balancing patience with assertion. We respect the boundaries of others and expect the same consideration. We assume responsibility for our behavior and accept accountability for our actions.

A time limit on speaking is an example of an appropriate boundary when made by group decision. The group may place a time limit on how long a person may speak to an issue, limit the number of times a one may speak on the issue, and determine how to seek clarification from members. If a member would like additional speaking time, that member may request it, and all members take a group conscience poll for resolution.

Before a group conscience is started in a home group meeting or service committee, it may be helpful to allow each member time to speak. Each member shares his or her name, an explanation of what the member hopes the group will accomplish, and the member's willingness to accept group conscience decision. Members may also choose to tell of a personal experience that pertains to the subject under discussion. This builds safety and trust within the group and reinforces CoDA’s spiritual principles.

Sometimes there may be a real or perceived conflict of interest regarding a member's participation on a particular subject. To be respectful of a member's integrity and boundaries, the member should have an opportunity to abstain from voting.

We are all at different places in our program, and many in CoDA service work are still working the CoDA Steps and Traditions to understand themselves. Some members may unconsciously act out, responding with anger and hostility. By practicing loving tolerance of each other’s opinions, we may receive the ultimate reward of our program: spiritual growth.

Disagreement, Mediation, and Resolution in Our Group Conscience Process
When we disagree, we express ourselves in non-personal, non-shaming ways. We do not attack an individual's point of view. Instead, we accept what the person says as true for them. In turn, we respectfully express our differing point of view. In this manner, we can share our experiences in a constructive way.

During the group conscience process, we reveal our commitment to CoDA by assuming responsibility for our behavior and accepting accountability for our actions. If we slip back into codependent attitudes and behaviors during this process, we admit it and make amends to those we have harmed. Thus, we gain a greater understanding of our Twelve Steps, Twelve Traditions, and CoDA’s spiritual principles.

Occasionally, a member may engage in unsafe behavior by not respecting the boundaries of others, or someone may perceive that to happen. In such a situation, any member may call for a "time out" or "thirty seconds." During a time out or thirty seconds, everyone ceases talking and spends time seeking guidance from Higher Power. At the end of the thirty seconds, someone calls "time,” and members may choose to end the silence with the Serenity Prayer.

If a time out does not eliminate the contentious behavior, it may be appropriate to ask for a group conscience decision on whether a person's behavior is threatening and offensive. If the group decides that the person is engaging in detrimental or disruptive behavior, it can hold that person accountable by requesting that such behavior stop. Persons so cited are encouraged to work Steps Four and Ten, and act according to personal truth. Then, another group conscience may be requested to re-establish safety and CoDA unity.

If the contentious behavior does not stop, then mediation may be in order. Two or more people (to avoid allegations of impropriety, one person can be of the same gender as the member) may meet privately with the offending member. They will explain why the attitude and/or behavior is unacceptable in CoDA.

If mediation fails to resolve the problem, and an individual continues to behave in an offensive manner, the group can decide (through a group conscience decision), to suspend that individual's speaking privileges or even voting privileges. In extreme cases, the group may ask the individual to leave the meeting. Each person's right to attend meetings is guaranteed by Traditions Three, Five, and Twelve. Violations of the rights and boundaries of a meeting dishonors Tradition One that says, “Our common welfare should come first; personal recovery depends upon CoDA unity.” An individual may lose the rights and privileges accorded to them by that group for committing such violations.

Occasionally, a situation arises where a trusted servant in a position of responsibility acts irresponsibly in performance of their duties or acts in a manner contrary to our program's principles. If so, the appropriate group, state, community, or regional Assembly may call for a group conscience decision to replace that individual. In such cases, the individual(s) affected should be notified of the meeting and allowed to participate in the process. A record of all actions should be maintained by the appropriate secretary and should be made available to any CoDA member upon written request.

Groups, community committees, and state or regional Assemblies do not establish CoDA policy. This is the responsibility of the CoDA Service Conference. When a conflict is referred to the group, community, state, or regional committee, they may help the conflicting members to explore the guidance offered by our Twelve Traditions.

In summary, the first step in resolving a conflict is for the individuals involved to attempt resolution between themselves. If this is not possible, the next step is for them to ask their home group for guidance or mediation. If this proves unsuccessful, the next step is to seek guidance from the local community service group. Beyond this, the state or regional Assembly may be contacted for assistance. As a final step, and only when necessary, members may seek guidance from our CoDA service structure by requesting assistance from the Issues Mediation Committee (see Section 10). It is recommended that individuals contact their state Delegates for assistance in forwarding the request to this CoDA Service Committee.

By seeking resolution in this sequence, we respect our Traditions and allow our program to work.

The Limits of Autonomy: When a Group Conscience Decision Affects Other Groups or CoDA as a Whole

Our Fourth Tradition reminds us that “Each group should remain autonomous except in matters affecting other groups or CoDA as a whole.” The decision making process of each group, including meeting groups and service groups, is independent and self-directed. However, if their group conscience decision affects other groups or CoDA as a whole, then that effect needs to be considered. The Steps, Traditions or will of the Fellowship as expressed by decisions made at CoDA Service Conference cannot simply be suspended by group conscience decision in the meeting or service group.

If a group does not agree with the interpretation of a Step or Tradition or the application of a CSC decision, they may want to present their concerns to their Intergroup assembly in order to formulate an Intergroup’s issue, or they may want to discuss their concerns with the Board of Trustees. In some cases, if direct resolution proves difficult, it may be useful to consult the Issues Mediation Committee.

Sometimes a CoDA member or group may perceive that their group or CoDA as a whole is being adversely affected by the group conscience decision of another group (meeting or service). The methods described in the section “Disagreement, Mediation, and Resolution in Our Group Conscience Process” (see above) can be applied to groups as well as individuals. First talk to the group and try to resolve the problem directly. If unsuccessful, seek guidance as described above.

Empowerment to Serve
Trusted servants at any level of service are empowered to serve their group or committee through the process of group conscience. Those who volunteer to serve are invested with the responsibility to act for the group or committee through this process, remembering that the ultimate authority is “a loving Higher Power as expressed to our group conscience.”

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Section 03 The CoDA Group

 

CoDA Meetings

The sense of community and belonging, which are the gifts of our program, begin at the group meeting level. The CoDA community uses the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, which are the foundation for our program, and are guides to our personal behavior and attitudes. They teach us to be respectful and honorable with one another.

A CoDA meeting is much more than a place to sit and tell your troubles, it is a place to meet people like yourself and to learn from those who are different from you; a place to interact with people focused on learning to have healthy and loving relationships.

A CoDA meeting is a group of people who come together around their shared desire for healthy and loving relationships. The meeting uses the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions of Co-Dependents Anonymous as the basis for working toward recovery. It is a place to find sponsorship and fellowship as well as the sharing of experience, strength, and hope. A strong sense of acceptance and community makes a meeting attractive both to the newcomer and old timer.

CoDA meetings remain strong and have the ongoing participation of long-term members when they demonstrate the qualities of acceptance and community. Members are encouraged to carry on fellowship outside of the meeting by going to coffee afterwards or working with a community committee to plan community events such as picnics, potlucks, campouts, or other events.

Some Different Types of CoDA Meetings
Speaker Meeting: This type of meeting features a personal story of recovery shared by one individual. Speakers share their personal experience, strength, and hope in the program. The meeting may or may not include open sharing after the speaker, depending on the length of story shared.

Open Share Meeting: This type of meeting often has no topic or individual speaker, giving members an opportunity to share their experience, strength, and hope on their recovery as they wish.

Topic Share Meeting: This type of meeting opens with the facilitator or a member of the group suggesting a specific topic, i.e., the Steps, setting boundaries, sponsorship, etc. The facilitator will usually begin the sharing.

Step or Tradition Study Meeting: In this style of meeting, the group uses our Conference Endorsed CoDA literature and/or the CoDA Book as a foundation for study, discussion, or sharing related to CoDA's Steps and /or Traditions. For example: the group may elect to read a portion of this material out loud and then have an open sharing session.

“Open” and “Closed” Meetings
A CoDA meeting may be "open.” This means that anyone can attend. “Anyone” means codependents, non-codependents, students, or representatives of other organizations (including the media), etc. (It is expected, and may be specifically asked, that all such visitors agree to respect our need for anonymity and confidentiality.)

A “closed” group, however, is a group attended only by people who are codependent or think they may be codependent. Newcomers who think they may be codependent can attend a closed meeting.

A closed group may be “restricted.” For example, a meeting may be listed as “closed - women.” In this example, only women who are codependent (or believe they may be codependent) may attend this meeting.

However, in respecting the spirit of Traditions One, Three, and Five, we honor one exception. No member of our Fellowship shall be turned away from even a closed or restricted meeting, if there is no other meeting available to this person.

Crosstalk
In our meetings, we speak about our own experience, and we listen without comment to what others share. We work toward taking responsibility for our own lives, rather than giving advice to others. This is why crosstalk is strongly discouraged during our meetings. Crosstalk guidelines help keep our meetings a safe place. For more information, please refer to the Newcomer’s Handbook. Examples of crosstalk may include, but are not limited to:

  • Giving unsolicited feedback
  • Advising
  • Answering
  • Making "you" and "we" statements
  • Interrogating
  • Debating
  • Criticizing
  • Controlling
  • Dominating
  • Minimizing another person’s feeling or experiences
  • Physical contact / touch
  • Body movements such as nodding one’s head or other gestures
  • Verbal sounds / noises
  • Referring to someone present by name

STARTING A NEW MEETING © 1998 All Rights Reserved

This is a CoDA Conference Approved Service Item

Starting a New CoDA Meeting

Thinking about starting a new CoDA meeting? Consider the following.

Where

Meetings can be held almost anywhere. Try area churches, synagogues, counseling centers, hospitals, or places where other groups hold meetings.

When

Based on a time that's best for you to serve, choose the day and time of the week you want to hold the new meeting.

Rent

It's important that rent (no matter how small) be paid for the meeting place. In this way, we honor our Seventh Tradition: Every CoDA group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions.

Since you won't know how large a meeting will be at the start, try to keep rent to a minimum. Rent may be a percentage of the meeting's collection, a monthly or quarterly fee, or anything to which you and your landlord agree. Some places let you use the space more as a courtesy than as a revenue source, so don't be afraid to negotiate. At the same time, don’t abuse their generosity.

Help

Ask for help, especially in the beginning. Invite people from other meetings to help you get the new meeting going. It helps to have several people present when newcomers show up. And be sure to post a sign at the new meeting location each week so that people can find your room easily.

Announce

Let people know about the new meeting. Visit other meetings with the necessary information (e.g., date, time, directions and/or a map). Place announcements in counseling centers and hospitals. Some local newspapers publish meeting notices at no charge. Just remember the Eleventh Tradition: Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion. As people see the announcements and hear about the meeting, they will come.

Format

After a few initial meetings, take a group conscience to choose a meeting format. Several different types of meeting formats exist:

Speakers Meeting: A speaker meeting features one individual's story of recovery. Speakers share their experience, strength, and hope with the group. Depending on the length of the individual's story, the meeting may or may not include open sharing after the speaker has shared.

Open Share Meeting: The open share meeting often has no topic or individual speaker. This gives group members an opportunity to share their experience, strength, and hope on any subject of their recovery.

Topic Share Meeting: The topic share meeting opens with a facilitator or group member suggesting a specific topic (e.g., the Steps, setting boundaries, sponsorship, etc.). The facilitator usually begins the sharing.

Step Meeting: The Step meeting makes use of our CoDA conference approved literature or the CoDA Book. The group may elect to read a portion of the material out loud before open sharing.

Structure

After the first meeting or two, it's best to reach a consensus on the structure of the new meeting. Note that this can always be changed at a future business meeting. Some questions may include: What guidelines will be used for sharing? How might the meeting deal with crosstalk? How will newcomers, literature, and other issues be handled? When will regular business meetings take place? The New Meeting Starter Packet (below) provides information and guidelines.

New Meeting Starter Packet

CoDA has a New Meeting Starter Packet, which includes a meeting format that can be adapted to individual meeting needs. CoDA recommends that every meeting have a copy of this packet. It contains the basic documents that support CoDA unity. A single copy is available for FREE from:

CoRe Publications

PO Box 670861

Dallas, TX 75367-0861

Fax (214) 340-6066

Or, you can acquire it from the web site at Meeting Starter Packet

Registration

Once you receive the New Meeting Starter Packet, you will need to register to become a CoDA meeting. In addition to a suggested meeting format, the packet contains all the forms you will need to apply for a registration number. Once you have an official number, the meeting will be listed in the CoDA Meeting Directory. If you have a Voting Entity organization or Intergroup, tell them about your new meeting so that it can be added to that community’s meeting lists as well.

CoDA Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions

Just as the Twelve Steps offer guidance for maintaining healthy relationships, our Twelve Traditions offer guidance for maintaining healthy meetings. The CoDA Book contains commentary on all the Steps and Traditions. Also, a helpful Fellowship Service Manual is available. Rely on the wisdom embodied in the Steps and Traditions. Keep in mind that trusted servants take direction from the Fellowship. A group conscience can be a powerful tool.

Jobs

Define what tasks must be done, such as:

  • Key Holder: The key holder lets people in and locks up after the meeting.
  • Chair/Meeting Leader: The chair/meeting leader runs the meeting.
  • Treasurer: The treasurer holds all Seventh Tradition donations, pays rent, and sends excess funds beyond a prudent reserve to the local Intergroup, Voting Entity and/or CoDA, Inc.
  • Secretary: The secretary takes notes at business meetings and keeps records.
  • Literature Person: The literature person orders and keeps track of the group's CoDA literature.
  • Phone Contact Person: The phone contact person responds to inquiries from people asking about the group.
  • Group Service Representative (GSR): The GSR is elected by the group to represent the meeting's group conscience to Intergroup, Voting Entity and CoDA Service Conference. Since GSRs act as liaisons to CoDA as a whole, they are also known as contact persons
    Growth

In the beginning, people may be called to do service work in more than one job. This is okay on a temporary basis, but may cause "burn out" or resentments over the long term. Jobs in CoDA are usually rotated to prevent "burn out." Job rotation also supports the concept that each meeting depends on all who attend. Let different volunteers perform each task, rotate positions regularly, and limit terms of service. More information about trusted servants can be found in the Bylaws and the Fellowship Service Manual.

New Meeting Starter Packet.

If at any time the group wants help or support (or has questions), call your local Intergroup, Voting Entity, or email Outreach Committee at outreach@coda.org. Our Higher Power will surely make available a member experienced in service, with whom you may consult

Higher Power is present at all Fellowship meetings.

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Section 04 Attracting Members

 

Our Eleventh Tradition reminds us that our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion. We do not advertise in the traditional sense in that we do not push for everyone to join CoDA. We do not pay celebrity sponsors to speak on our behalf. We do not tell people why they should join up. Instead, we let the program speak for itself. We let people know we are here and then we let them decide for themselves if they want to participate.

The Community Outreach Package Introduction provides an overview of the principles and the process of how to let the community know about your CoDA meeting.

The Press Release is a form consisting of two press releases that can be used to announce your meeting in your local newspaper.

Attending one’s first meeting can be scary. In order to help address those fears and encourage the newcomer to keep coming back, Welcoming Newcomers offers a list of suggestions for communicating to the newcomer that they are welcome and included.

The Flyer for Bulletin Boards can be individualized with your meeting and contact person information and posted to announce your meeting.

Community Outreach Package Introduction

TO: CoDA Members

FROM: National Service Conference

RE: Community Outreach Package - to help increase membership in your area

The Objective:

The goal is to "carry the message". This Twelfth Step work means, in part, to get information about CoDA and CoDA meetings out into your community, so the information is available to other codependents who still suffer. When your meeting is listed in your local newspaper, and area mental health professionals know about CoDA, more people can learn about CoDA.

Suggested Actions:

1) Newspaper Announcement Form - Fill this out and send it to your local paper to have your meeting listed.

2) Mail the following information to therapists, hospitals, help-lines, libraries, community centers, and colleges etc, within a 5-10 minute radius of your meeting. Check your phone book for possible nearby locations.

  • “What is CoDA?” pamphlet.
  • Subscription form for a complimentary copy of a local CoDA newsletter. Offer to mail complimentary quarterly mailings to all professionals. A quarterly mailing might include the local CoDA newsletter, updated meeting lists, and flyers about upcoming events.
  • CoDA flyer with meeting information “tear-aways.”

3) Hang the CoDA flyer with meeting information “tear-aways” in your community. Some suggestions for locations: churches, supermarkets, community bulletin boards, libraries, doctor’s offices. Remember to ask permission first.

Any Questions:

Please call a member of the CoDA Board of Trustees, a State Delegate, or the Outreach Committee.

Call (602) 277-7991, or email board@coda.org or outreach@coda.org

Community outreach is a way to implement our Twelfth Step and Fifth Tradition, that a CoDA group "has but one primary purpose - to carry its message to other Co-Dependents who still suffer.” These suggestions are within the guidelines of Tradition Eleven, which states, “Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion….”

Press Release


To CoDA members,

This announcement form is in keeping with our 11th Tradition, which states, "our public relations policy is based upon attraction rather than promotion." You may use this form to notify newspapers about your meeting.


Press Release:

Co-Dependents Anonymous (CoDA) Meeting Information

Co-Dependents Anonymous (CoDA) is a Twelve Step Fellowship of men and women whose common purpose is recovery from codependence and the development and maintenance of healthy relationships.

The CoDA meeting in the area meets:

On_____________________________ at __________am/pm (Day and Time)

At _______________________________________________________ (Location and Address)

_________________________________________________________

_________________________________________________________

For further information contact: _____________________________________ at (____) _____ - ________________________

CoDA is a non-profit organization supported by the voluntary contributions of attending members.



Welcoming Newcomers In CoDA Meetings

  • Put up a sign in the building that indicates where the meeting is.
  • Welcome newcomers. Include a statement in the format about when they can ask questions (after the meeting? during a break?)
  • Give each newcomer a Newcomer's Handbook or "Welcome" chip or What is CoDA? pamphlet.
  • Explain the "no crosstalk" custom as part of your meeting format every week.
  • Suggest that newcomers try several meetings before deciding if CoDA is right for them.
  • Make an effort to say something to a newcomer.
  • If your meeting's members go out after the meeting for coffee or a meal, announce at the end of the meeting that everybody is welcome.
  • Have meeting lists and phone lists available.
  • Phone contact for meeting returns calls promptly.

Each group has but one primary purpose - to carry its message to other codependents who still suffer.

~Tradition Five

The Twelve Traditions are reprinted and adapted with permission of Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc. Permission to reprint and adapt this material does not mean that AA has reviewed or approved the content of this publication, nor that AA agrees with the views expressed herein. AA is a program of recovery from alcoholism only - the use of the Twelve Traditions in connection with programs and activities which are patterned after AA, but which address other problems, does not imply otherwise.


Co-Dependents Anonymous (CoDA)

A Twelve Step self-help program for Co-Dependents

Characteristics of Codependence

Co-Dependents typically:

  • Assume responsibility for other people's feelings
  • Are not aware of how they feel and cannot identify their feelings
  • Tend to minimize, alter, or even deny the truth about how they feel
  • Tend to fear or worry about how others may respond to their feelings
  • Bolster their self-esteem by trying to solve other people's problems
  • Look to other people to determine what to do, say or feel
  • Focus their attention on pleasing another person
  • Have difficulty acknowledging good things about themselves
  • Tend to judge everything they say or do harshly, by someone else's standards
  • Have difficulty in forming and/or maintaining close relationships with others
  • Have to feel needed in order to have a relationship with others
  • Do not know or believe that asking for help is both OK and normal

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Section 05 Commonly Asked Questions

 

What constitutes a CoDA Group?

A CoDA group is composed of two or more individuals whose purpose in meeting is a desire for healthy relationships. A group applies the principles of the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, as adapted for our purpose from Alcoholics Anonymous. A CoDA group reads CoDA's Twelve Steps, Twelve Traditions, and the copyrighted “Welcome” and “Preamble” as they are written. These readings, along with the availability of CoDA Service Conference Endorsed literature at your meeting, help to support a sense of CoDA unity as called for in CoDA's First Tradition. In addition, CoDA groups register with CoDA, Inc., in order to stay in contact with CoDA as a whole. With respect to other questions about group organization (date, time, type of meeting), each group is autonomous except in matters affecting CoDA as a whole. Because the Twelve Steps are the basis of our recovery, we strongly suggest that each meeting set aside at least one meeting per month for Step Study.

As Tradition Four states, (“each group should remain autonomous, except in matters affecting other groups or CoDA as a whole”), it is important that a CoDA meeting present familiar aspects that communicate, “This is CoDA.” While it is rare, some meetings have chosen to adopt a format that varies significantly from CoDA guidelines. This presents confusion, particularly to the newcomer, regarding the nature of our program. If a community service group feels it necessary, a meeting may be informed specifically how it does not appear to be following the unifying principles of CoDA Tradition. If the meeting decides, by group conscience, not to change, they need to understand that they may no longer be recognized as, nor call themselves, a CoDA meeting and will be removed from Intergroups, and CoDA listings.

The community service group can, by group conscience decision, remove a meeting from their meeting list if it is determined that that meeting is not following the principles of CoDA and does not choose to change.

The community service group can then recommend that the meeting be removed from the Intergroup meeting lists.

The Intergroup can decide by group conscience whether or not to remove that meeting from their meeting list.

If the Intergroup or regional assembly decides to remove that meeting from their list, they can recommend to the CoDA Board of Trustees that that meeting be removed from the CoDA, Inc. meeting list.

The Board may decide by group conscience whether or not to remove that meeting from the CoDA, Inc. meeting list.

How does our Group register with CoDA, Inc.?
Fill out the GROUP REGISTRATION/CHANGES FORM, found in the Meeting Starter Packet, and return it to CoDA, Inc. Your group will be assigned a number and placed in our directory. If any changes in your group information occur, use the same form and return it the CoDA, Inc. address, so that our records remain current. Please use your assigned group number on all correspondence with CoDA, Inc. The above forms, as well as Internet based registration alternatives and information, can be found on our website (see note below).

Note: If you do not have contact information for your CoDA community service group, Voting Entity, or do not have copies of the above mentioned forms, you may write to Co-Dependents Anonymous, P.O. Box 33577, Phoenix, AZ 85067-3577, or visit the CoDA web site at www.coda.org for free downloads.

What is a “Home Group,” and why might I want one?
While having a “home group” does not afford us any special rights or privileges at the meeting, many of us find that having a particular meeting where we focus our participation and service work is helpful to our recovery. CoDA is about building and maintaining healthy relationships and those relationships can develop most easily among people we see frequently. CoDA is a community, and this is most evident at the meeting level. Because of this, many of us choose to identify a home group, which we attend regularly.

How can we let people know about our meeting?
Contact your CoDA community representative or Voting Entity Delegate to have your meeting listed in the local Intergroup or Voting Entity CoDA meeting schedule. This is the best avenue for gaining exposure and support. CoDA groups can be announced in local papers or on community bulletin boards. There is also a community outreach packet available for your use. This packet is available from CoRe, is included in this document in the “Attracting Members” Section, inside the starter packet, or from the CoDA website. Frequently, librarians allow groups to post notices or leave free material, such as "What Is Codependence?” which can include a group’s meeting information. According to Tradition Eleven: "Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion." We suggest simply stating "[Your Group name] CoDA Meeting" with the time, date, and location. Note that we do not use a meeting facility name as a group name, in accordance with Tradition Six. If a group called itself the Johnson Center CoDA Group, for example, this could be considered endorsement of an outside enterprise. Instead, the Hometown Tuesday Night CoDA group can post flyers saying that they meet in the Johnson Center.

Where do we get funds?
CoDA groups usually "pass a basket" during the meeting, reminding those attending about our Seventh Tradition, which states that each group is fully self-supporting and declines outside contributions. Occasionally, a group may pass the basket a second time if contributions are needed for rent, literature, or some other legitimate expense.

What is a “prudent reserve,” and what do we do with excess moneys collected?
A “prudent reserve” consists of two or three months' worth of group expenses. Group expenses include items such as rent, supplies, coffee, and Conference Endorsed literature. The prudent reserve is to cover expenses in the event that the group has unusually low attendance or donations. For excess funds left after the reserve amount is satisfied, a group normally makes a Seventh Tradition donation according to the following guideline:

· 60% to your local community service group (Intergroup)

· 30% to CoDA, Inc.

· 10% to your Voting Entity

Is there a limit to the amount an iIndividual may donate to CoDA?
Seventh Tradition cash donations are anonymous, and are not monitored or regulated in any way. The amount given by any individual in a meeting is personal and confidential.

Gifts of cash, goods (such as computers or books), or donations of services of value (such as auditing financial records or website maintenance) are subject to limitations on an annual basis. For optimal spiritual health, CoDA groups and service bodies adhere to our Seventh Tradition, which states that we remain self-supporting. Even though people donate with the best intentions, we are warned that problems of “money, property, and prestige” may “divert us from our primary, spiritual aim.” If the group relies too heavily on one individual or a small group of donors, autonomy is compromised, and group unity may suffer. Therefore, limits are placed on individual contributions, and these limits vary according to the size of the body receiving the gift.

For individual groups, Intergroups, and Voting Entities Service bodies, the value for donated cash, goods, or professional services rendered is recommended not to exceed $1000 (one thousand dollars) per year. That limit is raised to $2000 (two thousand dollars) per year for CoDA, Inc., in accordance with the larger scale of operation. All gifts are to be receipted, and for service bodies that are incorporated nonprofit organizations, gifts may be tax deductible for the donor. For the spiritual health of CoDA, all donations shall be anonymous, to the extent permitted by the gift documentation process.

Can our group use the CoDA, Inc. Tax ID Number?

No. The CoDA, Inc.Tax ID Number, also known as the Employer Identification Number (EIN) is not for use by any other level of CoDA except the corporate level. See www.coda.org FAQ section

Does CoDA Inc. have an “umbrella” insurance policy that would cover our meeting?

No, CoDA does not have an umbrella insurance policy that covers individual meetings. Intergroups or meetings may organize and purchase their own insurance.

What should we do if the group disbands?

In the unfortunate case of a group disbanding, the treasurer must ensure that current debts are satisfied. If possible, negotiate a reduction or forgiveness of rent due. Remaining funds and/or literature may be given to other local CoDA meetings or to the Intergroup, Voting Entity, or CoDA, Inc. If there is no other group close enough to easily give literature to, contact a Delegate or other CoDA, Inc. representative for guidance, or donate literature to area libraries, hospitals or institutions

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Section 06 The Trusted Servants of CoDA

 

A CoDA group cannot function without the efforts of our trusted servants. Service work starts at the group level. Service positions can be as simple as a month-long commitment to set up the refreshment table or literature table at each meeting, to a two-year commitment to represent the group each month at the local community service group meetings. This section contains some detailed descriptions of the tasks and responsibilities involved with service positions. These are guidelines and each group may decide to add, delete, or combine responsibilities as necessary.

Typical service positions of a CoDA Group are:

  • Chairperson
  • Secretary
  • Treasurer
  • Literature person
  • Refreshment person(s)
  • Phone list person
  • Group Service Representative

General Responsibilities of Trusted Servants

Preserving continuity: Outgoing officers are expected to work with the next person holding the position to insure that procedures, knowledge, and records are passed along.

Responsibility of office:

When officers cannot attend a meeting or other service commitment, they find a substitute to handle the job. In the event a commitment is not fulfilled, the officer should be given a chance to explain to the group. If desired, a group conscience may then be taken to determine if the group wishes the meeting officer to continue or wishes to seek another volunteer to take over the position.

Desirable qualities of Group Service Officers

  • Welcome and acknowledge newcomers
  • Encourage Twelve Step attitudes.
  • Promote adherence to CoDA’s Twelve Traditions and principles.
  • Conduct group conscience on new matters or to resolve disputes.
  • Support CoDA’s program of spirituality in the tone and style of the meeting.
  • Promote principles before personalities.

Guidelines for CoDA Group service positions

These are recommendations. Each group may decide how to distribute responsibilities among the trusted servants of the group, combining or expanding positions as needed.

Chairperson/coordinator/facilitator takes a leadership role for the duration of the meeting itself (this position rotates with each meeting or at time intervals, i.e., monthly or biannually):

  • Assumes overall responsibility for meeting format:
  • Invites speakers or finds a volunteer to handle speaker invitations.
  • Guides the meeting according to CoDA-endorsed guidelines.
  • [Members may volunteer to rotate as meeting leader.]

Secretary is the business representative for the group and acts as liaison to the meeting facility. (Suggested term of office - 6 months)

  • Obtains and maintains a meeting room.
  • Plans and conducts "business meetings" regularly (agenda items may include: elections, meeting format, procedures, etc.) and keeps records of group conscience decisions.
  • Provides the community service group with the full name, address, and phone number of all officers. * Changes in the location, time, or day of the group meeting, or contact person should be updated. This may be done through a 'Changes in Group Information’ form sent to CoDA, Inc. or through the CoDA web site at www.coda.org.

*Note: This personal data is used at the Intergroup, Voting Entity, and CoDA, Inc. level only for communication purposes and is held in confidence.

Group Service Representative (GSR) is the link between the CoDA group and CoDA as a whole. Ideally, a GSR is an established member of the group, with experience, knowledge, and understanding of CoDA’s Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions… (Usual term 2 years):

  • Attends the local CoDA Intergroup or Voting Entity service meetings.
  • Carries the group conscience to the local CoDA Intergroup, Voting Entity service meeting; and then reports to the group on the outcomes.
  • Notifies the group of any local or CoDA, Inc. updates, announcements, and flyers.

Treasurer:

  • Keeps accurate financial records of the group, and regularly reports to the group regarding income, expenses, and prudent reserve. (Note: A prudent reserve is determined by the group conscience of the meeting, usually two or three month’s worth of group expenses).
  • Pays rent to the meeting facility for use of the meeting room.
  • Disburses Seventh Tradition funds in accordance with group conscience. A suggested guideline is offered in the Welcome Letter from the Board of Trustees in the Starter Packet (see Section 15).
  • Turns over records and funds to new treasurer

Refreshment/set-up Person (Note: This is a group discretionary social function.)

  • Sets out refreshments, coffee, etc., only using your own group's supplies.
  • Checks supplies and obtain restocking funds from the Treasurer.
  • Cleans up the refreshment area and take care of the trash.

Literature Person:

  • Puts CoDA Endorsed literature out at the meeting.
  • Keeps track of group literature supplies and re-order as needed.
  • Obtains funds from the group treasurer to restock literature.
  • Refers newcomers and CoDA members to available CoDA literature.

Phone Contact Person:

  • Makes first name and phone number available on local and CoDA, Inc. meeting lists.
  • Is available to receive phone calls in order to give directions to the meeting

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Section 07 Intergroup or Community Service

 

The Intergroup (Community Service Group)

A strong CoDA Intergroup (community service group) (CSG) is the key to the success of CoDA in general. This CoDA community group may also be called an Intergroup (community service committee) a sense of community at the local level leads to success in attracting and sustaining the involvement of members of the fellowship in service work and in community building activities. The Intergroup (CSG) is made up of Group Service Representatives (GSRs) from area meetings and CoDA members from the local Fellowship. The Twelve Service Concepts of CoDA offer guidance in establishing service boards.

Service Participation at the Intergroup (Community Service Group).

All members of the Fellowship are welcome to attend and participate in their Intergroup (CSG). All CoDA groups are encouraged to send a Group Service Representative to Intergroup (CSG) meetings. Commonly, input is welcome from all in attendance, but Group Service Representatives are usually the only participants who vote.

Intergroup Members (GSRs)

An Intergroup (CSG) service member belongs to a CoDA group and has an interest in doing local service work. There are no "job requirements" for service to CoDA, although 6 months of meeting attendance is helpful before beginning service work. Some consider it a way of practicing and demonstrating responsibility and accountability to self and to others, while working a program of recovery and remaining open to Higher Power’