I have been with CoDA since June of 2016. I was in a marriage where I was constantly doing for my husband what he needed to do for himself. There was a lot of abuse and I was constantly chasing him and letting him use me as a doormat because his own addictions came first. My ex-husband has a god and it’s not me. My survival tools from childhood were no longer working for me. My counselor told me about CoDA and I’m slowly understanding why I do what I do. I divorced in September of 2016.
 
2016 was a trying year and I looked forward to 2017 as I wanted to continue to focus on my recovery but, to also be of service as well.
 
"When I got busy, I got better". I heard this saying in Alanon and CoDA. I would like to help and be a part of something that is bigger than me. CoDA has helped me to feel better about myself and embrace all the good and bad experiences in my life. The driving force in my recovery is the desire to have healthy relationships, starting with my relationship with me.
 
Manuela S – 1/16/17