I’ve just become a part of CoDA. Though I’ve just begun to learn the teachings, I already feel by being a part of this group that this is just the beginning of an amazing recovery. I can’t wait to see what’s in store.
 
 I just don’t know if my story is cohesive…. it really began when I realized I was married to someone I would consider a narcissist. I reported my husband to the army Family advocacy board and they denied my claim for emotional abuse because it didn’t meet criteria their computer system generates from votes a board makes without seeing evidence or speaking to either person. Which I think is the worst system ever created. Though I disagree, I realize he was wrong but also, I was wrong. All along I knew I put my children and myself in this situation. My choices led us here. I was raised in a similar situation and I need to figure out how to change that part of me for myself and my kids regardless of how a person or system judges us.
 
 What I’ve found is changing this habitual thought process; one that’s taken me 31 years to uncover it’s going to be the hardest thing I’ve done in life so far, but by far the best most eye-opening accomplishment. CoDA I’m hoping will help me through this process and keep me focused.
 
Melissa R. – 12/18