Twenty Consequences of Being a Codependent in Recovery!

 

My first consequence of being a codependent in recovery is: being angry at the disease and not at the addict.

 

My second consequence of being a codependent in recovery is: having my anger pass quicker; i.e. 2 hours versus 5 days.

 

 My third consequence of being a codependent in recovery is: being able to sleep at night even when there is a lot going on that I found very disturbing.

 

 My fourth consequence of being a codependent in recovery: being able to focus on the solution without angst and agitation.

 

My fifth consequence of being a codependent in recovery is : I can summon the courage to change things.

 

 My sixth consequence of being a codependent in recovery is : I can have serenity to accept the things I cannot change and recognize that is part of the reality of my life.

 

 My seventh consequence of being a codependent in recovery is ; I will not ruminate about my family that is not in recovery and accept that as their choice.

 

My eighth consequence of being a codependent in recovery is: I can get peaceful with work, being ok with going home on time, leaving work for another day.

 

My ninth consequence of being a codependent in recovery: I have learned to be supportive without controlling – know when to hold them, know when to walk away, know when to run.

 

 My tenth consequence of being a codependent in recovery: I can be patient and accept "not now".

 

 My eleventh consequence of being a codependent in recovery: Joy beyond all joy! Self care, taking the time to use the bathroom and not being constipated! "Excuse me! Nature calls!"

 

 My twelfth positive consequence of being a codependent in recovery: Having less anxiety, breathing more, saying STOP to the worrisome thoughts.

 

My thirteenth consequence of being a codependent in recovery: Going for a walk at work, using my breaks to enjoy some fresh air, some perspective and some self-care.

 

 My fourteenth consequence of being a codependent in recovery: Having the ability to act "as if"; acting my way into a feeling that I want.

 

My fifteenth consequence of being a codependent in recovery; this one is beautiful – I can be here now! I can stay in the present, "i have given up all hope of having a better past", and I can tell myself to stop future tripping, Que Sera, Sera

 

My sixteenth consequence of being a codependent in recovery: I can enjoy being in my own lane; someone else’s life is theirs to live.

 

My seventeenth consequence of being a codependent in recovery: I can practice daily gratitude and I have stopped those desperate prayers, pleading and crying because I know that I know that I know that when I praise, my Higher Power is able.

 

My eighteenth consequence of being a codependent in recovery: I can believe in progress, not perfection – it is ok to complete a project and accept it as it is and extend the same courtesy to others as works in progress.

 

My nineteenth consequence of being a codependent in recovery: I can have a better attitude, be more optimistic, know that in surrendering to my HP, things will work out accordingly (usually better than what I had planned) – I can be happy, joyous and free!

 

My twentieth consequence of being a codependent in recovery: I can actually walk past the alcohol section of a store without hatred and a terrorist attitude, wishing I had a bomb on my back to blow the bottles to smithereens.

 

J.Deborah – 3/17/16