CoDA Meeting Materials
Materials needed for CoDA Meetings
The Following are Individual Documents for Meetings
- Twelve Steps of Co-Dependents Anonymous (Required for every meeting)
- Twelve Traditions of Co-Dependents Anonymous (Required for every meeting)
- Welcome to Co-Dependents Anonymous (long version) (Required for every meeting)
- Welcome to Co-Dependents Anonymous (short version)
- Preamble of Co-Dependents Anonymous (Required for every meeting)
- Twelve Service Concepts
- Twelve Promises of Co-Dependents Anonymous
- Patterns and Characteristics of Codependence
- Recovery Patterns of Co-Dependents Anonymous
- Group Inventory Guidelines
- "For Safety Sake" tent card
- AA Steps & Traditions
- Meeting FAQs section of FAQs
"For Safety Sake" tent card
After the opening there is usually a time of sharing where the group divides up into smaller groups of about 6-10 to tell smaller pieces of their individual recovery stories. There is only one paramount Guideline in sharing: "No crosstalk". We make no comments about other people's sharing and do not give advice.
- What Is A CoDA Meeting?
Attending meetings is necessary for recovery in the CoDA program. A codependent attends meetings for his/her personal recovery, and this attendance benefits everyone, its what creates the group. At meetings, we share our experience, strength, and hope in our program of recovery.
- Where Do I Find A Meeting?
We maintain a list of meetings across the United States. Visit our Meeting Resource Center page to find a list of meetings in your area. This page also gives information on who to contact for meetings outside the U.S. Find a meeting here.
- What Happens At A CoDA Meeting?
Meeting Opening. CoDA meetings usually start with a moment of silence followed by a prayer of the group's choice. Following the opening prayer, almost all CoDA meetings read a selection of the foundation documents listed in the Conference guidelines. There is usually a short time allowed for announcements or group conscience.
- What Are The Different Types Of Meetings?
These meetings have a special format to allow newcomers to have their questions answered by Old Timers. Special efforts are made at regular meetings to provide for the needs of newcomers.
Speaker or Step meetings
A speaker shares his/her story for 20-30 minutes or shares on a designated topic.
Step Study Meeting
These meetings are designed to work the Steps together as a group of recovering codependents.
Step Four Writing Meetings
These are designed to allow time for individual reflection and writing, followed by an opportunity for each person to share some of what they have written during the session.
Meetings attended only by people who are codependent or think they may be codependent. Newcomers who think they may be codependent can attend a closed meeting.
Why do not my Meeting Updates Show Immediately?
When you use the forms provided for an online update, it sends an email with all of the information to our Fellowship Services Worker. She actually updates the data in the database.
Why doesn't the database just take the information that I put in? Because we do not have a login feature for updating meetings, anyone could update meeting information. Even someone with malicious intent! Therefore, we allow you to change the information by viewing the exact information that is in the database, but then it is reviewed and input by one person.
What are the checkmarks for Phone and Email?
In the old database and the old forms, there was the option to allow your phone number to be posted for viewing on the website. Many people today will email someone long before they would pick up a phone and talk with them. Therefore, we give you the option of making your phone and email available to the public. If you do not check the checkmarks, the particular data that you do not authorize will not be shown to the public. We never show the contacts mailing address to the public.
How can I view, call or email a contact for the meeting to make sure it is active?
It takes two steps to get to the information about the contacts. First you put in your search criteria and click on submit search. When the list of results comes up, you can click on the meeting number/meeting name to see the full information on a meeting that you are interested in. Once this information comes up, it provides a primary and secondary contact with phone and email entries for both, if the information was provided. Often times, a meeting will only provide one contact and may or may not provide a phone number and/or an email.
If after looking at the full information for the meeting you find no contact or you are unable to reach the contact with the information that was provided, CoDA nor its Fellowship Services Worker has any additional data that they can release to you. We do not maintain a secondary list of info that we can hand out upon request. If the information is not there, we do not know it. In come cases, a contact may provide a mailing address, phone number or email that they do not provide authorization to provide to the public. We do not show this information and we cannot release this information to an individual.
If you do not see it! If you cannot contact it! It is not known to us!
Can I still use the other forms?
Yes, you can still use the forms available on this site. However, these forms are still in revision due to the changes for World meetings. We have the following forms:
What is the fastest way to update a meeting?
The fastest way to do an update depends upon the amount of data that needs to be changed. If you want to change the day of the meetings or one or two bits of information, the fastest way is to send an email to meeting @ coda.org. If you need to change more than two pieces of information, it would be faster to use the online update form.
Mailing in an update form is the slowest way to update meeting information.
Should I provide two contacts for my meeting?
CoDA prefers two contacts with at least one sharing their telephone number. The provision of two contacts, two telephone numbers and two email addresses provides a greater chance that a new comer would be able to contact you concerning attending the meeting.
How often should I update my information?
You should update your meeting information every time something in the information changes. However, if nothing changes, you may want to send an email to firstname.lastname@example.org and tell the Fellowship Services Worker that all the meeting information is correct. She will update the meeting update date for you. Our Outreach Committee sends out mailings from time-to-time to meetings with update dates over three-years old.
What happened to the full Listing of Meetings?
When the new database was created, it was discovered that some of the meeting lists could become very long, especially as you might look at an entire Country at once. Therefore, it was discussed with the contractor who was developing the code and he recommended using the results list to allow the user to preselect which meeting he/she would like to view the full data for. Every attempt was made to provide the most useful data in the results list, but space was limited.
There have been several recommendations of providing the full list as an option. We are looking into ways that we can do this, but have no idea of a timeframe nor idea of the exact method to do this.
What do I do on this site to join a meeting?
The Meeting Resource Center has multiple purposes: It allows a user to search for meetings, allows people running meetings to update their information and allows new meetings to be added to the CoDA list of meetings. However, the site does not provide a means of electronically joining a meeting.
To join a meeting, simply go to the meeting in person. For Online/Phone (alternative) meetings, use the sign-on information to become a part of the next meeting.
Where are the meeting days in the proximity search results?
There was a problem with the coding for the search results from doing a Zip Code Proximity search when the code was firt released. The code has been fixed and the meeting day now shows up.
You can view the meeting day and contact info by clicking on the meeting number/meeting group name. This will show you all of the information that is releasable to the public.
Why does the meetings in the zip code that I typed into the Proximity Search show up down in the list?
There was a problem with the coding in 3rd party software that does not provide a correct sort for large meeting lists from the proximity search. This usually happens when there is more than 25 results returned from your search.
To remedy this, you can lower the distance from your zip code so that the results list is less than 25 meetings or view the whole list to make sure that you see all of the meetings.
Unfortunately, the third party software does not provide a distance within the same zip code. We realize that this can be misleading, but the idea was to be able to view meetings around you area sorted by some relationship as to distance from you. These distances just do not reflect an accurate distance.
What is the history behind Online/Phone (Alternative) meetings?
NOTICE: Online/Phone (Alternative) meetings is the title assigned by CoDA for all meetings that are not face-to-face. These meetings include phone, internet, chat room and other forms of communication where the members hold the meetings without being face-to-face. Since these meeting are not tied to a geographical location (i.e. US or World) they are listed separately.
Disclaimer: Co-Dependents Anonymous, Inc. (CoDA) does not endorse any of the commercial sites, organizations, therapists, or recovery centers that may be found as a result using any alternative type meeting found on this site. The CoDA Fellowship is offering their Experience, Strength and Hope concerning possible recovery resources. The members of CoDA are not Professional Counselors and make no assertion that any particular group or entity is appropriate for a particular individual. Our goal is make the search for online recovery support resources easier for those unable to attend traditional Face to Face meetings.
The 2003 CoDA Conference addressed endorsement, tradition, and safety issues related to online recovery meetings and groups by doing two things: 1. Removed the online meetings as registered meetings. 2. Created an Online Support Committee.
The Online Support Committee (OSC) purpose is: To provide an information section on the web site (www.coda.org) that will give information about online resources and meetings. Instructions for locating resources and a list of resources (disclaimers of non endorsement would appear). A committee of trusted servants would review resources before listing them.
The Online Support Committee presented and the 2004 CoDA Service Conference approved the following motion.
Motion: That CoDA recognize online meetings and other meetings using all alternate forms of communication, as equal to face to face meetings.
Intent: To support suffering Codependents. Registering and listing all meetings in the meeting list database gives them equal status and treatment. So that online meetings are part of the same structure, direction and services. Unify CoDA meetings regardless of medium of communication used to conduct the meeting.
Remarks: Encourages recovery, unity and spirituality by using communication and modern technology to carry the CoDA message to those who still suffer.
In 2006, the CoDA Service Conference approved all Online/Phone (Alternative) meetings as a voting entity. Therefore, the non-traditional meetings can have two delegates representing them at conference. The Online Support Committee was disbanded.
In 2007, the release of the current Meeting Locator (Meeting Resource Center) identifies Online/Phone (Alternative) meetings with their own tab next to meetings within the U.S. and meetings outside the U.S.